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Why People Find It So Hard to Change
We can manage change the easy way or the hard way. By Vic LeBouthillier “The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance.” – Alan Watts How many of us have tried to make what seemed like a simple change in our lives […]
Change is Inevitable
We must manage it or it will manage us. By Vic LeBouthillier “Progress is impossible without change, and those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything.” -George Bernard Shaw We live in a fast-paced, ever-changing world. Information is coming at us at a high speed with value placed on immediacy. Change affects everyone and […]
The Story of Jim & Judy: Part 2
How one couple learned to set healthy boundaries within their marriage. By Vic LeBouthillier In our previous blog, you were introduced to Jim and Judy, a couple struggling to get their personal needs met within their marriage. After realizing that healthy boundaries were never taught to them as children, they felt powerless about making positive […]
The Story of Jim & Judy: Part 1
A struggle with healthy boundaries within a marriage. By Vic LeBouthillier This is the story of Jim and Judy, a married couple who seem to be struggling with getting their personal needs met within their relationship. Check out how Jim and Judy are just beginning their journey towards succeeding at establishing healthy boundaries: Judy: When […]
An Effective Process for Setting Healthy Boundaries
A guide to setting boundaries with others. By Vic LeBouthillier “You deserve to have reasonable things that are important to you.” With a small amount of support, almost anyone can learn the skills needed to succeed in establishing healthy boundaries. First, you must understand these four important things: 1. You deserve to have reasonable things […]
Why Are Boundaries So Difficult to Set and Maintain?
Why most struggle with healthy boundaries. By Vic LeBouthillier “Our inability to create boundaries comes mostly from the lack of healthy modeling provided by our parents/caregivers when we were children.” How is it that some people have healthy boundaries, while most people struggle with them? Well, there are two main reasons for this. 1. SETTING […]
What Are Boundaries & How Do They Apply to Your Life?
A definition of, and a self assessment for, healthy boundaries. By Vic LeBouthillier “Becoming aware of what boundaries are and learning how to implement them into your personal life reduces relationship conflicts and stress.” Social scientists divide boundaries into several categories. For the sake of simplicity, a general definition of a boundary has two important […]
An Introduction to Boundaries: The Imaginary Fence
A key factor in healthy relationships and mental well-being. By Vic LeBouthillier “Boundaries are the borders separating where you end and I begin.” Like an imaginary fence, boundaries provide a sense of space and protection between us and the people around us. We can change the amount of personal space we have by expanding or […]
Connections and Engagement: A Friendliness Survey
A close look at the effect of various types of social interactions By Vic LeBouthillier In 2011, the Vancouver Foundation polled 275 charitable foundations and 100 community leaders to find out what they believed was their most pressing issue. To their surprise, it wasn’t poverty or homelessness; It was isolation and disconnection. This year, the […]
Two Examples of How to Build Close Relationships
How two people learned to build and benefit from close relationships By Vic LeBouthillier Tom: 37, husband and father of two. Works as a store’s general manager. Lonely, but with a chance of a breakthrough. Tom worked hard to get to where he is and had to step on a few toes in the process. […]
